What Media

Hope this does not bore all of you but I am wondering if there is a better way to buy media ?. You go to get HD-Burn disks and read package that says HD-Burn approved so you get them home and put one in and go to work. You set every thing up select files edit selection and finaly click BURN and wait & wait and finaly finished with no errors BUT it will not read!!! so you check with every software made for checking and some say it is good and other say it is incorrect function.
The manufacture says you must use XDV$#%%^$#@ type joe smith media or you will get errors. Is there a standard or a good ruel of thumb?

Generaly Taiyo Yuden is considered to be an ideal media.