Finally! after getting angry and frustrated i went out and bought some different dvd-r discs.
Came back home, and dhc014 had sent me the drives actual updated firmware BYS2
So i flashed it, and used the new discs, and finally i did not create a coaster!
Not sure if the disc made a difference, i'll find out soon enough on the next burn. but if the old dvd discs hold up, then it's the cross flashing that would appear to be the cause!
was kinda happy about the 4x DL, and 16x -R speed on the new firmwares for the liteon and the sony 710A...oh well hope a new firmware for the D22A comes out that gets it those speeds...
oh, and thanks dhc014, i'm so much happier now