After reading all these happy ending stories, and wiping my eyes from the joyful tears, I just felt that I have to put my 2 cents worth in.
I have a Philips 612 standalone player, and although it plays +R media most of the time, it has issues. Example- Sometimes in the middle of a film the screen starts stuttering, or freezes altogether. Sometimes, when you try to open a menu, it freezes the screen also, or just a half of the screen shows up.
These problems don't appear with -R media. -R copies play fine, and never a problem swithing to menu in the middle of a film.
I tried the bitesetting tool from Liteon with my 851s, and believe it or not.......NO HELP. It does the same crap as when the disk was a +R disk. DVDInfoPro says that the booktype has been changed to DVD-Rom. I guess the bitesetting just doesnt work for me as good as it works for others.
Bottom Line......If you are having issues with +R media on your standalone player, then Bitesetting might be just what the Doctor ordered. If it doesnt help, then you might just have to stick to -R media like I have to.