I'm up and working... it took a few hours of troubleshooting, a new controller card, AND eventually a new DVD Burner drive.
Sequence of events:
Got a Silicon Image PCI Controller (0680) $17. Tried the DRU700A - Fixed Nero Info Tool BSOD+Reboot problem, but burning produced coasters at about the 12% mark.
Tried the DRU700A on the MB onboard IDE - Info Tool worked there too, but burning still did not work. Basically during the burn process nero would keep terminating the process because it would think there was no media in the drive!
At this point I'm thinking it's the DRU700A. So I caught a sale on a DRU720A and tried it. First on the MB onboard IDE - Info Tool worked and burning was flawless. Next back on the Silicon Image PCI Controller - Info Tool worked and even better burning worked flawless!!!
The DRU700A is one month from being out of the one year warranty, so maybe I will send it in for grins.