Appreciate all the good feedback.
I have done a bit of research on the provider of the Family Cyber Alert software, and they seem to be trustworthy, so I'm not too concerned with them. I found some good information on their website. My friend's husband is an IT guy and uses other software from them.
In my case it will not be "spyware" as I have told my kids that I will be using it and how. I'm sure other parents may decide to use this more stealthily - I'm not comfortable with that personally, but realize different parents have different parenting approaches, circumstances and challenges.
I've used a filter for when my kids were younger, but that is not what I'm looking for at this point. It looks like I can still block specific sites with this software if I want, but more important to me is having greater visability to their online habits...for the purpose of enabling me to have more productive discussions with them about online habits, what to be careful with and why, what are some of the possible lasting ramifications of using poor judgement online.
we have rules / guidelines, and we talk, but even the best kids are not always the most communicative and thus you have to pry sometimes to get info...with this monitor program, it gives me a bit more to go on when I do talk to them about online habits...if I happen to see something that concerns me somehow, I plan to use that to learn a bit more about it so that I can have a more constructive follow-up conversation if it is warranted.