Also try using Nero's drivespeed (downloadable from cdspeed2000.com) to slow the BenQ down to a mimimum.
Or, in your case, do that with your laptop.
Using a crossover cable, create a small peer-to-peer network between the laptop and the PC containing the BenQ.
Create a folder on the PC's drive and (right click) network-SHARE it.
On the Laptop, navigate into Network Neighborhood and find that folder that is located on the PC.
From the Laptop, assign that network location (the network-shared folder onboard the PC)--assign it a drive letter so you can access it easily. Perhaps "Drive T"
From the Laptop, put in the home videos and rip (read) them directly into the PC by choosing that network destination as the target for the movie files (save to "Drive T").
Well, then you're home free to copy those movies from your laptop, into your PC.
Since they skip, I would recommend using Nerovision to edit out any problems and transcode. This will stop the skipping problem. From there, you can burn the newly transcoded videos to your BenQ.
You may wish to use Ritek media.
Creating a second, backup copy of the home movies is a great idea too.
Avoid inkjet printable medias because they are prone to malfunction later.
Best of luck!
I'm off to check out (play with) ISO buster.