ok after hours and hours of searching i found this:
1. Go to the Start Menu, then click on Run...
Type in "regedit" and hit the Enter key or click the OK button.
Once the Registry Editor is up, navigate through the folders at the left (by clicking the "+" signs) until you get down to this location: HKEY_LOCAL_MACHINE\Software\Microsoft\Windows\CurrentVersion\Policies\Explorer
Click on that Explorer folder/key. In the right side of the registry editor you should have an entry/value called NoCDBurning. Double-click that name.
In the window that opens you will see a place for "Value data." A 1 here enables NoCDBurning, meaning you will have NO CD burning. This will definitely stop you from being able to use your CD-RW drive to write. So if you have a 1 here (as I did) then this may be your problem. Replace the 1 with a 0 to disable NoCDBurning, thereby enabling CD Burning. (Sheesh! Did Microsoft really have to go about this backwards?) Click on OK.
Close the Registry Editor and Restart your computer
i have done this and i now have the recording tab in the properties of the drive
but now when i try to burn a data or a music cd it starts burning fine but aborts a couple of minutes later