As far as I know, fees related to Blu-ray disc production applies only for commercially made BD-ROM movies where they use BD Logo which means their products comply with BD specs and products. If you are burning blu-ray video to BD-R or BD-RE discs for family event, wedding ceremony or similar events, you don't need to worry about fees.
From blu-raydisc.info FAQ:
I am a wedding/event video photographer and shoot the HD pictures and burn on BD-R/RE discs. Can I apply for Logo Licence Agreement (LLA)?
If you burn to R or RE discs, BD Logo is not permitted to use. The reason is BD-Logo is basically used to communicate to the consumers that the products having BD-Logo is complying with BD Specification and compatible with other BD Products.
In case of contents burn on to BD-R or RE discs, there is no way we can assure the compatibility /quality of the disc.
To communicate to your customers that the disc is a BD disc, you can either use a word â€œBlu-ray â„¢â€ in plain letter on the label or you can design your disc, so that BD-Logo on the original blank disc is visible to the consumers.
You may use â€œBlu-ray â„¢â€ in plain letter in your website/printed materials to publicize that you are providing your services using Blu-ray format.