There are a couple of ways it can be done, but any way you cut this cake, it's going to cost you some $$$.
A)- Purchase DVDFab, and it'll do all you want, based on your previous posts.
B)- Purchase and use VSO Software's ConvertXtoDVD, which will take your .VOB files, give you some pre-determined menus, and generate the .IFO and .BUP files you need for set-top play-back.
C)- Purchase (and learn how to use) DVD-Rebuilder, which will do the same job as B), but will give you greater control over the end result, and will require mucho skull-sweat to learn.
D)- Purchase (and learn how to use) DVDLab Pro, a complete authoring package, a bit easier to learn than C), and will afford you total control over the end result.
E)- Save your money, and sit back and wish you had A), B), C), or D).
The choice is yours.