I donâ€™t mean anything in an offensive way as a way of trying to put you down and falsely elevate myself, I am just trying to say what is practical for you to consider.
Firstly I would not assume people have posted fake pictures. If a person put fake pictures on it would just cause problems for them when you came to meet in real life, you can imagine it would not be a good start for a relationship. If it is somebody WAY overboard (like say they posted a picture that looked like it was a professionally taken picture of a porn actor) I would take it as a joke, or enquire that they send more pictures. People who fake pictures often just Google something generic, so they are unlikely to be able to produce other plausible photos. Of course the only way to make sure is either to view there webcam, or to meet in person. I would probably recomend viewing there webcam fairly early on, to make sure your not giving yourself false hope that will just lower your self- further. I know not everybody has a webcam, but its certainly worth asking.
Remember that internet dating isnâ€™t just for people that are desperate. Very large proportions are perfectly attractive people that would have no problem finding somebody in â€œreal lifeâ€. Of course, what the picture is like doesnâ€™t sum up about this person all that well. However attractive a person is physically, if they have a bad personality people wonâ€™t stay with them for long. People generally donâ€™t care much about personality to start with, but after a few weeks it will start to make them less desirable to be with. You could well find that the person is as attractive as they say, but is really not nice at all. There are some people on there that just donâ€™t like what there is locally, or have had bad experiences with local people and wish to form a external relationship, completely separate from the rest of there life. My guess is that some people on there just want to see how many responses they get, just to feel good about themselves when they see there is a bunch of people interested in them.
If I where you I would just post a good, honest, photo of yourself. I recommend taking a photo slightly from the side; people seem to look more attractive slightly from the side, look at the angle most professional pictures of people are taken from. A bad mug shot that looks like its for a passport photo with you staring blankly at the camera with a fake smile wont attract many people at all, even if you are a attractive person. I wouldnâ€™t try and over-sell yourself; this will make you look very desperate. But if you under-sell yourself you will look self-pitiful, and women donâ€™t like that either. If you tell people you think you are unattractive, or give signs that you think you are, they will start to pick out the bits of you that you just told them to, and focus on that, disregarding all the good things about you.
Iâ€™m not sure if this is how all dating sites work, but I know there are some where you see the profile, click â€œYesâ€ or â€œNoâ€ to â€œWould I Like To Meet The Personâ€. If you and the other person both click â€œYesâ€ it will send a e-mail to both of you saying that you are both interested in each other. This means that both people feel safe that the other person likes them back, which saves on all the trouble when getting to know somebody thinking â€œwill they like me back?â€.
I think for you personally, once you have dated one person on the internet you will be much more confident in yourself that people can like you back. This may even enable you to meet new people â€œin real lifeâ€. But my only worry is, if you feel uncomfortable about meeting women in real life, why do you think it will be easy on the internet? You still have to meet them for real, you would still need some self-confidence with them. The fact they have already agreed to meet you is a factor in boosting your confidence with them, but if it really low anyway, you may not be much different. By showing signs of paranoia (ie, are all the pictures fake?) that they are just there to trick you, and donâ€™t really like you back, I would guess that you would still find it hard with them.
What is it that you think prevents you in the real world, is it that you see yourself as ugly? Or is it that you just you find it hard to talk with them on a romantic level?
Ok, last question. Be honest, out of 10, how would you rate how attractive you are to women? 10 being the best. I know all things are relative, so lets just say for example, Brad Pitt is 10, that thing on kwkard’s avatar is 1, 5 is the average man you see walking down the street.
As a 14 year old kid I probably donâ€™t know what I am talking about. And half the stuff I have said isnâ€™t necessarily going to be relevant to you. I am sure allot of people will come up with other good suggestions.