Compatibilty issues?

I`m having problems with 3 different DVD writers using 3 Different progs to write with and I believe its due to incompatible media.

Writers are as follows:

Lite-On (model unknown as its not hooked up atm)
TSSTcorp CD/DVDW TS-H552B
DVDRW 1008IB

software used:
Nero
Sonic
Pinnacle Instant CDDVD

One of the systems is dual boot 98 SE and XP Pro SP2
The other 2 are both XP ProSp2

Often sonic and nero will complete a burn saying it is successful but the disk fails to read in any of the drives and on any of the DVD players I have (3 different makes, 1 of them will play Divx)

Media used:

Maxell
Disc Type DVD-R
Book Type DVD-R
Manufacturer RiTEK Corporation
Media ID RITEKG05

Memorex
Disc Type CDR (A+)
Manufacturer CMC Magnetics Corporation
Material Phthalocyanine
Media ID 97:26:66

Tevion
Disc Type DVD+RW
Book Type DVD+RW
Manufacturer Philips Electronics
Media ID PHILIPS041

Datawrite Yellow
Disc Type DVD+RW
Book Type DVD+RW
Manufacturer Prodisc Technology Inc.
Media ID PRODISCW02

Datawrite White
Disc Type DVD-R
Book Type DVD-R
Manufacturer Mitsubishi Chemical Corporation
Media ID MCC 02RG20

I will shortly also be getting an HP Pavilion ZD8369 Laptop with DVD Writer and am trying to find a media that is compatible with all of these drives and that successfully writes!

Sometimes i get an error message but usdually the disks appear to write ok

Any help would be greatly appreciated

Thanks

Woofgbruk