Well developed burning software have drivers that disable actions such as AIN (auto insert notification) or autoplay while burning, preventing interruptions. Some packet writing software will not work as designed without AIN enabled.
Buffer underrun prevention technology is standard on all recent burners. Buffer underrun errors should not be possible and therefore not an issue with supported burners and software. I always leave AIN enabled, ignore the rare warning and never have a problem.
I would just leave autoplay enabled which would solve your refresh problem. In the unlikely event you notice some unwanted effect with a particular program, you could always temprorarily disable it if necessary.